Answers for the Journey Ahead
If you’ve arrived here, it’s because healing brings questions — especially in queer life.
This page offers clarity, compassion, and truth for gay men survivors navigating recovery.
Quick Answers About Safety, Privacy & Using The Site.
This section offers simple, honest answers to help you feel safe using the site.
Here you’ll find guidance on privacy, consent, and crisis support — created with gay men survivors in mind.
No. This site offers education and peer-support resources. It’s not a substitute for therapy, diagnosis, or emergency care.
Call 911. For 24/7 support, call 988. See our Crisis Resources for more options (Trevor Project, RAINN, NDVH, Trans Lifeline).
Yes. You can publish with your full name, first name only, or anonymously. We’ll never share your story without your consent.
We lightly edit for clarity and safety while preserving your voice. Nothing is published without your explicit approval.
Use a private device when possible. Consider changing passwords, disabling location sharing, and clearing browser history after visiting sensitive pages.
Yes—Circle of Strength, Safe Space Journal Prompts, and a Recovery Checklist. They’re printable and trauma-informed.
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Begin with Start Here: basic safety tips, the Circle of Strength worksheet, and our core guides (Gaslighting, Silent Treatment, Love Bombing).
Listen without judgment, reflect their feelings, avoid pressuring decisions, and share resources (988, Trevor Project, NDVH).
No hate speech, harassment, or doxxing. We reserve the right to remove content that risks safety or violates guidelines.
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Boundaries help you reclaim your sense of self, safety, and control. They are not walls to shut people out — they are guardrails that protect your energy, values, and healing.
Yes. Survivors are often conditioned to believe that saying “no” is selfish or wrong. In reality, setting boundaries is a healthy act of self-respect. Guilt will lessen as you practice.
Begin small. Say “no” to something low-stakes, or take a pause before agreeing to requests. Use phrases like:
- “I need time to think about that.”
- “That doesn’t work for me right now.”
Their reaction doesn’t mean your boundary is wrong. Those who benefit from your lack of boundaries may resist. Stay firm, calm, and consistent. Over time, healthy people will respect your limits.
Healing is not a one-size-fits-all journey. Some next steps include:
- Grounding practices to calm your body.
- Journaling to give voice to your inner truth.
- Therapy or support groups for guidance.
- Community stories to remind you you’re not alone.
Progress looks like small shifts: feeling less drained after saying no, recognizing red flags sooner, or noticing moments of peace. Healing isn’t linear — but each step matters.