LGBTQ+ Narcissist Tarot Cards: Glossary & Guide
Note: The dynamics of narcissistic abuse apply across all genders/sexualities, but here they’re interpreted with common gay community lenses — hookups, coming out, chosen family, validation-seeking, cultural pressures, etc.
Queer-Aware Glossary of Narcissistic Abuse Terms
💔 Reactive Devaluation
Definition: Once someone you admire or love becomes identified with the narcissist, even good things they say or do are dismissed; devalued because of association.
Gay Twist: Your friends turn on you because he claimed you were the narcissist. Suddenly, your truth is suspicious.
👼/😈 Golden Child / Scapegoat
Definition: Roles in family systems of narcissism: one child idealized (Golden Child), another blamed/neglected (Scapegoat).
Gay Twist: Your sibling is perfect. You’re always “too much.” You grew up questioning your worth.
🧠 Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Definition: Clinical condition; persistent pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy.
Gay Twist: It’s not just a vibe — it’s diagnosable. That charm and confidence? Might be a mask for a deeply wired disorder.
✅ Green Flags
Definition: Healthy signs: mutual respect, honesty, emotional safety — useful contrast.
Gay Twist: You feel safe, heard, not “too much.” He asks questions. He remembers your triggers. Green means go.
🚩 Red Flags
Definition: Early warning signs: grandiose self-talk, lack of empathy, etc.
Gay Twist: He love bombs, trash-talks his ex, and jokes about being “too hot to handle.” Believe him the first time.
🧩 Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)
Definition: Trauma resulting from prolonged abuse. Symptoms include emotional regulation issues, dissociation, self-image issues, relational problems.
Gay Twist: You second-guess your feelings, freeze under pressure, or panic when it’s “too quiet.” It’s not drama — it’s trauma.