Books
Curated recommendations that validate your experience and build skills—no shaming, no jargon.
Recommended Reading — Gay Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Explicitly gay-framed; raw tone with strong content warnings.
Direct exploration of narcissistic abuse through a queer lens.
The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World — Alan Downs, PhD
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Not narcissism-specific but deeply relevant: heals shame and identity wounds that narcissistic partners often exploit.
Same-Sex Domestic Violence: Strategies for Change — Beth Leventhal & Sandra E. Lundy (Eds.)
Gay Guide to Narcissist Abuse , Mythomanics, and Other Bullies From the Dark — Charles K. Bunch, PhD
Same-Sex Domestic Violence: Strategies for Change — Beth Leventhal & Sandra E. Lundy (Eds.)
Practical, LGBTQ+-affirming chapters on safety planning, advocacy, and building survivor-centered services.
Domestic Violence Against Male Same-Sex Partners in the EU — Yeshwant Naik
Domestic Violence Against Male Same-Sex Partners in the EU — Yeshwant Naik
Same-Sex Domestic Violence: Strategies for Change — Beth Leventhal & Sandra E. Lundy (Eds.)
Research-forward overview of abuse patterns among gay men (incl migrants/refugees)
Academic, validating, and policy-minded.
Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them — David Island & Patrick Letellier
Domestic Violence Against Male Same-Sex Partners in the EU — Yeshwant Naik
Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them — David Island & Patrick Letellier
A seminal, gay-specific look at intimate partner violence (IPV) among men—naming tactics (control, isolation, shame) and mapping routes to safety/support.
How to Kill a Narcissist — J.H. Simon
Domestic Violence Against Male Same-Sex Partners in the EU — Yeshwant Naik
Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them — David Island & Patrick Letellier
Clear recovery blueprint for survivors: boundaries, somatic repair, and rebuilding authentic self-worth.